Debbie Vaile Counselling
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My name is Debbie Vaile and I am a Qualified Integrative Counsellor and Registered Member of the BACP.
Life can be challenging at times and can present us with varying degrees of problems that can feel difficult to cope with on our own. These challenges may affect our quality of life and lead to emotional difficulties resulting in depression, stress, anxiety and tension affecting our health and ability to function effectively. Difficulties may relate within the present or arise from our experiences in the past impacting on how we behave and identify now. This can affect how we relate with ourselves and others. I offer a safe and confidential space for you to explore areas of concern, gain insight and deepen awareness, without judgement or criticism. My focus is solely on you and your needs in supporting you in gaining a better understanding of how you think, feel and behave. My aim is to assist you in achieving confidence to support yourself and in making changes that feel right for you in moving forwards in life.
Within my personal life I have volunteered as a Listener supporting adults and as a Befriender to children in foster care. These roles motivated me in changing direction within my professional life and supported my counselling journey to qualification in 2014. Throughout my training I underwent my own personal therapy and had the opportunity to process my own difficult experiences. I recognise the importance of feeling safe and understood and how the right relationship and conditions can be a positive factor in fostering personal growth and change in others.
I have worked within a diverse range of settings supporting a wide range of individuals' needs including:
Working within private practice supporting individuals and couples
Working voluntarily and privately for a charity specialising in anxiety and depression
Working for a children’s charity within primary and secondary school settings promoting positive mental health and emotional wellbeing of children
Working in a GP surgery delivering short term focused therapy
Working as a Facilitator in delivering Counselling Skills Taster Courses to Adults in improving communication skills and enhancing emotional and social skills.
MY PROFESSIONAL QUALIFICATIONS
CPCAB Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
CPCAB Level 4 Certificate in Counselling Children
Certificate Transactional Analysis 101
Certificate in Thought Field Therapy
Certificates in Couples Counselling
CPCAB Level 3 Certificates in Counselling Studies
CPCAB Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills and Introduction to Counselling Skills
I am a Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy and abide by their Ethical Framework for Good Practice. I hold an Enhanced DBS Certificate and full Indemnity Insurance and have monthly clinical supervision. I am committed to on-going personal and professional development and attend relevant trainings and courses as well as enjoying wellbeing activities of yoga and meditation, ensuring a duty of care to my clients and to myself.
I offer counselling services to individuals and couples within a designated space in my home which lies in a peaceful setting within the borders of Westerham and Biggin Hill.
I can help you with a varying degree of issues ranging from:
Life stage transitions
Trauma / PTSD
Domestic abuse/Domestic violence
Bereavement and experiences of loss
Unhelpful thinking styles and destructive behavioural patterns
Self-esteem and confidence
Counselling is a talking therapy delivered by qualified practitioners who support people in gaining a better understanding of themselves and their experiences. It provides a safe and confidential space that focuses on improving self-awareness for the individual(s), alleviating distress and building resilience and confidence. The aim is to promote positive mental health and emotional wellbeing encouraging people to be more authentic in how they identify and in living their lives more independently and freely.
It is not about sharing opinions or giving advice and differs from the relationships you may share with friends and family. A counsellor is non-judgemental and empathic in their approach to supporting people in being more in touch with their emotions and more open and honest in sharing their thoughts, without fear or criticism. They provide a safe and contained environment in which you will experience, security, understanding and acceptance.
Counselling can be supportive of a wide range of life problems ranging from depression, anxiety, stress, traumas, abuse, sexuality, relationship difficulties, divorce and separation, loss and bereavement.
Counselling is accredited by professional bodies that provide an ethical framework supporting the aims and standards that counselling professionals are encouraged to adhere to in ensuring a good and safe practice. To learn more about counselling, the range of therapies available and to read some information on how to choose a therapist, you can visit
How I Work
As an Integrative Counsellor I am trained in several therapeutic modalities for understanding human functioning and personality. This allows me to tailor sessions to meet your individual needs. I draw on my knowledge and use of tools from two main schools of therapeutic thought: Psychodynamic and Person Centred Therapy. I also integrate CBT strategies in challenging unhelpful thinking styles and behaviour. Mindfulness and Thought Field Therapy techniques can be supportive to clients in promoting relaxation and alleviating emotional distress.The Person-Centred approach focuses on the individual’s capacity to achieve personal potential and self-validation. It focuses on the importance of the therapeutic relationship in providing growth promoting conditions encouraging openness and change through self-awareness. By gaining a better understanding of yourself and your experiences you can live life more freely and fully in the present. The Psychodynamic approach gives exploration to how past experiences and childhood relationships influence the unconscious mind in driving motive and behaviour. It aims to gain understanding of conflicts, deep-rooted feelings and memories and considers the impact of defence systems and patterns within how a person thinks, feels and behaves. By letting go of the past you can relate more effectively in the present. Strategies from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy gives focus to understanding and challenging unhelpful patterns and negative thoughts that impact on an individual’s feelings and behaviours. It works at developing techniques and coping strategies to help challenge and improve your mood and better manage stress within life.
Contact and Fees
I offer both short or long term therapy
Adults counselling sessions - £45 for 50 minutes
Couple counselling sessions - £60 for 1 hour
I have appointments day-time and early evenings.
Parking is available.
I can be contacted by email or telephone.
Located Biggin Hill / Westerham area